I'd rather love than hate.

# February 10, 2012 / 3:27PM 98 notes

Anonymous asked i have an abusive boyfriend who cheats on me and it kills me, but i cant seem to let go. letting go would hurt more

Do you understand the words that just came out of your mouth? Or rather, your fingers? Do you? You just told me that staying with someone who constantly degrades you and hits you is less painful than living without them? Do you understand what this fucking jerk has done to you? He’s made you think that you need him. He’s made you think that you deserve this, and that you’re somehow worse off without him? No. Fuck that. I’ve seen all the TV shows and all the celebrities talking about how hard it is for girls to let go of guys that abuse them and that it’s not easy and stuff. And trust me, I’m not Ellen and I’m certainly no Oprah (even if I wish I was Oprah). But you know that what he’s doing to you is wrong. You just sat there and typed it out. He’s cheating on you. He’s abusing you, maybe physically or maybe verbally, or maybe both. Either way, both are fucking disgusting. I don’t know you, but you realize what he’s doing to you. And for that, dear, you are absolutely beautiful and absolutely wonderful. Listen to me when I say that you don’t need him. You don’t need everything he puts you through. Get fucking mad. Look at everything he’s done to you. Get fucking pissed. I know you might love him, but what would you tell one of your friends if they were in your position? You’d tell them that they don’t deserve it, and that he doesn’t deserve them. And let me tell you, he doesn’t deserve you. You deserve a guy who’s going treat you perfect, nothing more and nothing less. I understand that it’s scary and painful to let go, and I can only do so much for you. In fact, it might not even seem as simple as ‘letting go’. And well, I guess it’s not. But I promise you, if you keep your goal, if you keep your light at the end of the tunnel in sight, you’re going to make it. You don’t need this manipulative douchebag. I know it’s hard, and maybe he was different at one point in time. But always remember that the only people you truly need are the people who need you as well. And I don’t give a fuck what he tells you. He doesn’t love you, and he doesn’t need you. His actions speak volumes. I have all the faith in the world in you, and this goes for anyone in your position as well. Everything does get better, but without action, you’re going nowhere. It’s time to step up and stand up for yourself. I know it’s hard and I know that it pretty much sucks, but just remind yourself that you deserve better. I promise you with all of my heart that the sun does rise. All you have to do is let the night and all the darkness in your life know that it has an expiration date. Everything gets better, I promise. You can do this.